One of the readers who was kind enough to leave a comment to my post, a proponent of gay marriage, had this to sayÖ.
ďI want to live in a country where people are not denied rights.Ē
This is a position that many who favor gay marriage assume. That refusing to grant legal sanction to marriages between same sex couples is actually refusing them some basic human right.
I have a problem with this.
Many people want to make sure that their values are in the strongest possible position if it comes down to a debate. Often I hear rhetoric being applied in the most inappropriate manner, usually using emotionally loaded terms that are carefully calculated to make their side seem good or superior in some way. (For example, Liberals are now calling themselves ďProgressivesĒ even though they cling to discredited policies like Socialism or Communism.)
The bottom line is that I donít think there is such a thing as a right to get married. Iím not married myself, and I think that my sanity would be questioned if I demanded that the government provide a mate on the grounds that my civil rights were being violated. Unless Iím way off base on this, I canít even sue a woman and ask the courts to force her to marry me if she turns me down when I get down on one knee.
Please keep in mind that Iím referring to traditional marriage, something that everyone agrees is legal and an important part of our culture and society. If that isnít a right then gay marriage certainly isnít a right.
So why do people use these loaded terms even though they donít apply? I think that theyíre simply trying to convey how important they view the issue, and so they use the strongest language they can without being offensive. It does give the impression of a calculated effort at propaganda, though.